"We were besieged and bombed day and night. We couldn't stick our noses out of the house," Talovic's cousin, Redzo Talovic, 59, recalled yesterday .
"At first we all hid from the shells, but later we gave up on life, didn't care, and started coming out. That's how . . . the shelling killed 20 people in the village," he said.
Young Sulejman, his three siblings, his mother Sabira and grandfather made the difficult journey on foot to Srebrenica, while his father, Suljo, hid in the mountains with other men from the village, relatives said.
"Many left the village, only a few made it," said Murat Avdic, 54, a family friend.
Srebrenica was besieged, bombed and crowded with hungry Muslim families like the Talovics. One of the bombs killed Sulejman's grandfather.
"Those were really nice people, never argued with anybody about anything. During the war, they shared the little food they had with others," said Sefko Talovic, 59, a distant relative
Later that year, Sabira Talovic and the four children were among the displaced rescued by the United Nations. They made their way to the government-controlled town of Tuzla, impoverished but safe.
"They were very poor, they had lost everything, but they were very nice and quiet people," former neighbor Zijad Cerkic said, recalling the young Sulejman as "a good child, always with a smile on his face."
Sulejman's father narrowly survived the 1995 massacre in Srebrenica of some 8,000 Muslim men and boys by Serb forces loyal to then-Yugoslav leader Slobodan Milosevic. The massacre of civilians was Europe's worst since World War II.
The family reunited in Tuzla later that year when a peace agreement brought an end to the war. But the accord divided the country, putting their native Talovici under Serb control -- and they did not dare return, relatives said.
They made their way to Zagreb, Croatia, where they obtained Croatian citizenship. In 1998, they joined relatives already living in Utah. They created new lives for themselves in Salt Lake City, relatives said.
On Monday, 18-year-old Sulejman Talovic -- described by his Utah neighbors as a loner who always dressed in black -- opened fire at a shopping mall, killing five people and wounding four before being shot dead by police.
Avdic speculated the teen had been traumatized by what he saw and experienced as a child of war. Up to 200,000 people were killed in the 1992-95 war in Bosnia, and 1.8 million others lost their homes.